Enjoy Being Spanked? Here’s What You Need To Know About Impact Play

Impact play is one of the corner stones of any dom/sub relationship. When uninitiated people talk about BDSM, they usually think of impact play. Although it’s not the only element of this way of enjoying sex a bit more on the kink side, it does play a major role in it. It’s not about pain and suffering as many might think. It’s really about pleasure through pain. But only if it’s done right. If you’re new to BDSM and you want to be dominated through impact play, here’s what you need to know before your first spanking session. 

 

 

Consent and Safety

Although many of us got a spank the booty during sex, in the heat of the moment, that’s not the same as spanking for the purpose of impact play. A spanking session involves a dom/sub play, multiple hits, controlled levels of pain and other additional elements, such as role play, dirty talk, punishment or the use of restrains, ball gags and other toys. So, if you and your partner have never done this before, make sure you talk it through before you commence.

And while you’re at it, set a safe-word, in case things get too intense or unbearable. As for the spanking area, it’s pretty obvious that you’ll have to hit the booty, but you can go for a bit lower and apply some spanks on the back of the thighs. Don’t spank the tail bone and make sure you don’t hit the kidney area. And keep an eye on the color of the skin. It’s normal for the booty to turn a sexy pink, but if you’re not in the game for hardcore impact play with the purpose of getting nice sexy bruises from spanking, make sure you don’t get hit to hard. If the skin turns purple you’ve been spanked enough. However, you’ll probably shout the safe-word before that happens, so don’t worry. 

How to tell your partner you want to be spanked

Now that we got the safety precautions out of the way, let’s talk kink. In case you enjoy getting spanked, telling your partner might feel awkward at first. If you’re a girl, don’t overthink it. Most men have this fantasy and if you come forward with it, he will feel like he hit the jackpot. If you’re a guy who wants to be spanked by a girl, you’ll have to ease in the subject. Throw in some other kinky ideas at first so that she will get used to your naughtier side.

 

 Spanking for Punishment

Spanking can also have a therapeutically effect in the life of a couple. If you’re open minded enough to use it as a coping mechanism for whenever one of you wrongs the other, some tension in the relationship can be released through impact play. Not only that your partner can easily forgive you through this control form of punishment, but you can feel relieved of the guilt this way. 

These are just the first things you need to know about spanking as a form of impact play in your BDSM adventures. Come back and we’ll talk some more on the subject. But until then, go and experiment. Live your kink!