Do you remember the first time you've kissed someone? How did it go? For some people, surely—it didn't go well. Shucks! Some first-times may get a little out of hand, and we know for sure, it's embarrassing. But hey—that's alright!
Whether you've tried casual kissing already, or haven't made it to the first base yet, you're on the right track. How about make it even exciting and sexy? How about putting that tongue into action?
Master the art of making out by following this complete guide.
QUICK PREP
You can't dive in without getting prepared. Getting romantic is one thing, but letting your partner know what you want to do is a major turn-on.
- Have proper personal hygiene.
Start with the basics. Stay clean. We know you like it nasty, but that doesn't mean it's alright to be unsanitary. Before smooching, brush your teeth. If you're a bit OC, don't hesitate to use dental floss.
Cracked, dry lips? Get that moisturized right away! You can use a lip balm or chapstick for soft, hydrated lips where everything glides smoothly all over the place. Lipsticks can be based on your preference. There are so-called kissproof lipsticks in the market, so make sure to pick the right one. But, if you don't mind getting your lipstick smeared all over your face, why not?
You can also wash your face before getting into a lot of action, especially if you have oily skin. If you're wearing make-up, make sure you don't overdo it. Get rid of that cakey foundation before it transfers to your partner's skin.
- Get in the mood.
Do you instantly get the urge to kiss someone romantically? If so, does your partner feel the same way as well?
Aside from putting yourself into the mood, your partner should also give in to your request. Flirting is one of the best ways to build-up affection between two people. Use your charms and be clear with your intentions.
- Get closer and stare.
When you're ready for that moment, lean in closer. Most importantly, stare into your partner's eyes without hesitation. This is your chance before closing your eyes while you kiss.
FEEL THE MOMENT
Just a heads-up—the kiss is supposed to be romantic, sensual and erotic. It's not the same as a quick peck on the cheek if both of you are already in it...
- Start slow.
Don't open your mouth way too much as if you're licking a popsicle. You have to calm your hormones ASAP!
Touch with your lips closed. Don't overthink too much on what to do next. This is one of the critical moments when you'll find out if your partner is up for a long make-out session. If s/he breaks in, you can pause for a while and kiss again.
- Kiss gently.
You can put the pressure on the lips first. But since we're talking about sensual kisses, doing it nice and gentle is the key.
- Tilt your head.
It's an awkward position when you keep your head straight while kissing. It will also be hard for you to reach the corners of your partner's mouth as you move further. So, tilt that to the side!
- Be gentle with the tongue.
Open your mouth a little bit and put your tongue inside your partner's. If s/he gives in, welcome to the paradise! It's going to be ecstatic, overwhelming at some point. But please, don't forget to keep the pace. Be gentle. Brush it inside your partner's mouth in a subtle and relaxed way.
- Suck gently and lick.
Sensual kissing is all about licking and sucking. Make it even crazier as if you're picking a fight with your partner's tongue. Move around and taste heaven.
- Be comfortable with transitions.
Staying in one position can be dull and boring. Worst case scenario—it might get awkward to the point that your partner might stop kissing you.
You can make your mouth work for a while, then put that tongue into action within the next few seconds. Swirl your tongue, nibble with your teeth but don't bite too hard! If you feel that your partner is going with the flow, take it to the next level by speeding it up. Give your heart out and show what you've got!
BONUS TIPS TO REMEMBER
- Breath breaks are important.
Make-out sessions don't mean it's continuous for five, ten, or as long as you want. If you run out of breath, don't hesitate to pull back and stare to your partner. This will maintain your connection after pausing. Breathe. Put a smile on your face, and chuckle to show that you are having fun.
- Don't drool too much.
Control your saliva while getting in heat. Typically, you exchange saliva with your partner, especially if there's tongue involved, but make sure that it doesn't get messy.
- Moan.
Well, it's not the same moan while you're having sex, but the type of moan which gives a hint that you're into it. A short "mmm" while kissing is a major turn-on to your partner.
- Make your hands move.
You can include this one with the transitions. We know that your lips and tongue will do all the work, but maintaining a powerful body language is a huge plus. Caress your partner's face, down to the shoulders, arms, and hands. Lean closer and hug if you can, while caressing your partner's back as well. Don't overdo it though. It has to keep with the pace always.
YOU HAVE TO ENJOY EVERY BIT OF IT!
Live in the moment. That's all that matters. You have to get passionate about kissing. It should work hand-in-hand. If one of you fails to do so, everything will lose in sync, and you're back to square one.
It takes some practice before you can call yourself a good kisser, but if you know your partner too well—there's no need of that. Time will come that both of you will pick up at a certain pace, and it's going to feel better than ever!