Beginner's Guide To Swinging
If you want to learn how to start swinging, you came to the right place. We will run down the basics of how to get into swinging and then you can figure it out by yourself if you and your partner are ready for this big step in the relationship. Swinging is not the same with an open relationship, but it can allow both partners to liberate some of the tension that’s building up in a monogamous couple sex life without having to go through the drama of cheating. So, let’s take a look at some swinging rules and tips before you go have sex with other couples.
Why Do You Want To Swing?
This is the question both you and your partner must ask yourselves and each other before you venture on this kinky journey. If you want to do it because you want to experience your sexuality to the fullest, that’s a good answer. If you can also accept that your partner will feel the same pleasure while being with another man or woman and if you can be happy for them, that’s the most perfect answer. But if you want to swing just because you’ve been flirting with that colleague from the office and you are trying to get both of your partners involved just so you can get with them, that’s a terrible idea.
When To Start Swinging?
Swinging is usually for more mature couples who have a level of intimacy and are comfortable with each other’s sexual desires. Before you make the step, discuss every aspect of the adventure. You must set the boundaries and discuss any scenarios that might arise.
Whom to Swing With?
This answer is simple. You’re better off swinging with strangers for the first time. Swinging with friends or colleagues at first can be really risky, because if it’s a first you don’t know how you and your partner will react. Maybe things go south, and if they go south in front of someone you know, they will keep getting awkward. I’m not saying you can’t swing with friends, but make sure you got comfortable with sharing your partner and have them make love with another person in front of you.
Where to Start Swinging?
The best idea is to start swinging while on holiday. If you find yourself in a nice place, where everyone goes to relax and party, it’s a perfect environment for a first swing. Some swing clubs know that and they have venues open in touristic destinations. But you can go by yourself and mingle with other couples. If you have the swing vibe one, other couples will sense that and if they’re into it to, next thing you know you’re in the hotel room doing it. And since it happened on holiday, it doesn’t count as much, so you have time to process it and get more comfortable with it. Then you can move your adventures closer to home.
How To Swing?
Discussing about rules and boundaries with your partner should also include what you’re allowed to do with other people. Some couples only go for voyeurism in their first swinging experience, meaning that all they will do is to have sex in front of another couple. Others go for the classic lesbian sex show between the girls followed by voyeurism sex.
But other couples are more comfortable with swapping partners, which is the classic way of swinging, while if they feel kinkier, they will involve in foursome, in which everybody is doing everybody in the same bed. Same sex activities are common between the girls, but that doesn’t mean guys can’t get naughty with guys. However, while a man watching his girlfriend of wife kissing another woman is exciting and a fantasy that came true, a woman watching her man with another guy can be shocking at first, if not discussed before.
And remember! When you finally decide to go have sex with other people, always use a condom.