The dom/sub relationships are becoming more and more popular. Besides the fact that couples enjoy it during sex, there are lots of them who are practicing outside sexual interactions. There are couples who engage in 24/7 dom/sub relationships. And if you want to experiment with this kind of advanced role play, here are some of the basic things you need to know when you have the dominant role in bed and outside it. This is true for both men and women, so pay attention to the following paragraphs.
1. Respect and Safe Word
The first thing you need to know about domination is that although you have power over your partner, that doesn’t mean you can be a jerk to them. Yes, you can verbally and physically abuse them, but only in the limits of the game. Don’t try to be hurtful. Do it only as a turn on. A common mistake that arises in the couples with not as much experience with the dominant role in bed is to seek revenge for the fights they have over the day. You will never get away with such behavior, and it can put an end to all fun and even an end to the relationship. Practice care over your partner. After all, they are your slave and although you have fun with them, you should always take care of your slave.
And most importantly, respect the safe words. I believe you already know what that means. We’ve been talking about it on the blog a lot. But just as a reminder. When the safe word is shouted, everything must stop!
2. Careful With That Camera
One of the big mistakes that can break the trust bond between a dom and their sub is filming them without their permission. Sometimes, especially when tied up and blindfolded, we are tempted to take out our phone and snip a couple of pictures or take a short video. That should always be done under consent, and it’s better to do it with the camera or the phone of the person that’s in the video, so that they will have full control over the material. Although you are sexually open, you really don’t want your parents, or even worst, their parents, to find out about your passion for BDSM from a leaked video on the internet.
3. With Great Power Comes Great Responsibility
When you’re in the dominant role, especially when experimenting with rope bondage or other risky forms of impact play, you are directly responsible for your partner’s safety, so take all precautions. I always recommend a pair of rounded point scissors for emergencies when rope playing. Also, you must research your knots and ties, you must know about the sensitive body parts and what areas can take some pain, and you must pay attention to your partner’s vital signs. Pay attention to the color of their skin, their breathing and their consciousness.
Just because you are dominant, it doesn’t give you the right to do anything you want. You still must be thoughtful and caring, while exerting your power over your slave. If you do it right, you can awaken a Stockholm syndrome in your partner, and they will love you even more.