When you want to get into dom/sub play with your partner, you need to start putting together a BDSM kit. And the one sex toy you really need to include for things to get on a whole new kinky play level is the ball gag. Shutting up your partner not only that it gives you a feeling of power over their body, but it also makes for some really kinky sounds when they start moaning and screaming through the mouth gag. But before you go choose your first ball gag for kinky play, you need to know a thing or two about ball gag sizes and types and how to make use of it.
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What is the ball gag?
The mouth ball gag is iconic for BDSM. Although it comes in lots of varieties, the regular design is pretty simple. It features a ball that goes in the mouth and a strap going around the head, locking-in through either Velcro or a buckle. But for your loved one, you don’t want anything too simple. Get something stylish, because besides the usability of this product, it can also have high aesthetical value. Your partner will look and feel sexier if you gag them with a high-end product.
In the same time, we must talk about safety and comfort. There are different ball gag size and types you must consider. If you just started training your partner in the art of submission go with a smaller ball, and then increase the size as she or he feels comfortable. Also, we recommend a ball that has breathing holes in it, because in the beginning, losing the ability to gasp for hair through the mouth can be a bit scary. But you don’t have to keep buying them as the BDSM training progresses.
We recommend the Fetish Fantasy Series Ball Gag Training Kit, which comes with those breathing holes I talked about and it also features three different ball sizes. The black leather strap matches any sexy outfit you might use and it has an easy to unlock buckle for the moment she tries to scream the safe word.
How to use the ball gag
Learning how to use the ball gag for role play is really simple. Just like in any ludic experience, start slow. Tease your partner and get them in the mood for submission. Take control and make sure they’re turned on. Gag them only after that. The sexual desire they will feel when turned on will make the feeling of being gagged more pleasurable.
When it comes to the safe word, make sure to chose something with lots of vowels and with rhythm. Since their mouth is gagged, they obviously can’t talk clearly, so their attempt to shouting the safe word should be easily distinguished from moaning, screaming and dirty talk. That’s why we recommend words like “Banana”. An alternative is to have your submissive partner hold something in their hand and drop it when things get too intense for them.
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The bondage play with ball gag can also include additional BDSM toys, such as harnesses, wrist restrains, clitoral stimulators or prostate massagers, and anything that may make your partner want to scream, such as floggers, paddles or riding crops.
Now that you know the basics of the mouth ball gag, you’re ready to start training your partner. Talk them through the process at first. Get their consent and make them feel comfortable and safe under your control. Submission can be just as satisfying for them as domination is for you. Enjoy your kink!